About a Boy.

It has been a while since my last post. There is no excuse for this.. However I think I have a pretty good one – we’ve been busy having a baby! We are so grateful to have a boy this time and he perfects our little family. When we found out we were having a second, we were ecstatic. We already have a beautiful daughter and we knew that another child would fit in wonderfully. Then the anxiety kicked in.. Towards the second and third trimesters, I could not comprehend the thought of having two kids. Be it baby brain or hormones, but at that time all these thoughts felt logical to me. My main concerns included 1) I’ve spent the last two and half years looking after a girl, what the hell am I going to do with a boy? 2) I love my daughter so so much, where am I going to find more love for this new person? Well I can now say that I am coping with a boy (I can even clean and change his nappy without worrying if I’m doing it right!), and I love him just as much as our daughter. Motherly instincts kicked in the moment he was born and thank goodness for that.

However, now into our fourth week, life is not as easy as I had expected. Our daughter was an easy baby (perhaps I have selective memory?) and I was expecting our boy to be the same. Hmm.. One should always prepare for a not so smooth ride! For us, the first week was about continuous crying at night, the second week was about constipation and the third week was about staying up past our 7pm bedtime. We concluded that the crying was due to wind and the constipation, after many poo conversations, was due to wind and perhaps the formula he was having. As for the staying up.. Well, we are still hoping for the best with this one!

It pays to mention also, that despite re-reading the once helpful baby books – Tizzie Hall’s Save Our Sleep and Gina Ford’s Contented Little Baby, there is no way you can smoothly juggle two routines without getting flustered or yelling (whilst feeding newbie) at the older one to eat dinner by herself like she did pre-baby. This is why wine o’clock is very important! Please, baby authors.. write a book that incorporates tips and routines for more than one young child.

Last night I slept quite well for the first time in 3 weeks. Eight hours with a 25 minute feed break wasn’t bad at all. Perhaps little man should stay up until 10pm more often. Haha.. Maybe not.. Ahh precious sleep. Luckily my husband Mark has been great with giving bub his night feeds. He is a bit of a night owl so that helps when I’m feeling sleep deprived or upset about why our baby won’t stop crying. Ladies, if your husbands don’t help with the night feeds, I suggest you whack him one in the head – any help would be a great support for you.

My next obstacle to tackle is day sleeping. Less day sleep = more night sleep, right? According to the routines, baby should only sleep a certain amount of time each day and be awake after his feeds. How to keep a newborn baby awake is a mystery to me. So far no amount of wet wipes, a screeching little girl running a muck or a friend’s three year old accidentally kicking him have managed to wake him. On the other hand, if I can just remember how I managed to get daughter into her routine so easily.. Why is my memory so blurred?? Must be the lack of sleep! Or the baby brain!


Ava and I reading up on baby books



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